Wired for Love

Wired for Love

How Understanding your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build A Secure Relationship

Book - 2011
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Baker & Taylor
Citing a high percentage of first marriages that end in divorce, a guide based on the author's extensive work as a family therapist incorporates cutting-edge findings in brain science and the nervous system while outlining 10 principles for managing a partner's emotional reactions and resolving conflicts lovingly. (This title was previously listed in Forecast.) Original.

New Harbinger Pubns Inc

Wired for Love offers couples principles from attachment theory and cognitive neuroscience to help them nurture the ìcouple bubbleî and learn to please and soothe their partners. Readers also discover effective nonverbal communication skills, techniques for quickly resolving common pitfalls and conflicts, and easy ways to increase feelings of comfort and security.

"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.

Wired for Love is a complete insider’s guide to understanding your partner’s brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings on how and why love lasts drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this book presents ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship.

Strengthen your relationship by:

• Creating and maintaining a safe “couple bubble”
• Using morning and evening rituals to stay connected
• Learning to fight so that nobody loses
• Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved

By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure. The no-fault view of conflict in this book encourages readers to move past a "warring brain" mentality and toward a more cooperative "loving brain" understanding of the relationship. This book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.

While there’s no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you can discover how you and your partner are wired differently, you can overcome your differences to create a lasting intimate connection.

Publisher: Oakland, CA : New Harbinger Publications, c2011.
ISBN: 9781608820580
Characteristics: xiv, 181 p. ; 23 cm.


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Nov 06, 2017

This has been the best book on relationships that I've ever read. It should be required reading for all of humanity.

Jul 11, 2016

Love the concept of the couple bubble.


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